If you want to know how your life would be, you have to concentrate on your thoughts. Your thoughts is the secret gate to failure or success. They are the main things that will draw your life. If they are positive, you will be a successful person but if they are negative, you will be a loser.
Your thoughts are something special, no one has the authority to manage them. You are the only one who has the right to change, improve yourself and facilitate the circumstances to get what you wish. Respecting yourself and appreciating your abilities are the most effective way to make your wish true. When you respect yourself, you will force others to respect you. Believe in your abilities so people will believe in you. You are the one who can indicate how could people treat you (you are responsible for this)
Accept what Allah (God) gives you, don't be despondent or greedy. Try to develop what he gives you, try to make it better and do your best to make your own dreams come true.
Trust your abilities even if others criticize you. Criticism is just for successful people so When they criticize you that's mean you are better than them and you have things they don't have. Losing your self confidence is the main reason for your failure, this will destroy you. To thank Allah for his gifts (your mind and your senses) try to use them correctly, use them to achieve your goals. When you use them to serve yourself that's mean you're so grateful to him. Remember that there is no difference between you and those who become successful, you can become one of them or may be better than them.
What should I do to approve that I deserve appreciation?
Here are some ideas that will help you to do so:
- Choose things that you are good at and has the ability to do them successfully. Because achieving them will motivate you to achieve more.
- Convince your unconsciousness that you are a good person who deserves respect and this will automatically reflect on your behaviors (remind yourself of the good behaviors or virtues that you have)
- Don't waste your time to make others happy because they will deny your efforts so try to make yourself happy without hurting others (make your relation with Allah"God" stronger, make it with your friends successful, get your dream job, improve yourself and change your behaviors )
- Face your fears if you really want a good life. Believe that there's nothing to worry about if you really do your best to achieve it (practical or psychological aspects). Allah (God) plans your own life so believe that he chooses the beautiful things for you.
- Participate in many voluntary works because this will strengthen your self-confidence, refine your abilities, indicate your tendencies and draw the way that you would like to follow.
- Never compare yourself to others because your abilities, tendencies, skills and goals are different.
- Surround yourself with positive people and get rid of negative ones because they will affect you badly.
- Be patient, confident, persistent and determined. Reward yourself with something that you like for each good thing you do because this will motivate you to achieve more.
- Live your life as you wish because you're the responsible for your behaviors. Remember that you're the only one who is responsible for your failure or success. When you succeed, you will approve that you deserve appreciation.
